# Understanding the Infidelity of Somatic Narcissists
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Chapter 1: Defining Somatic Narcissism
A somatic narcissist is a specific type of narcissist whose primary focus is on their physical appearance, body, and sexual abilities. Their self-worth is heavily derived from their looks, which they utilize to manipulate and control those around them. Typically, somatic narcissists are obsessed with maintaining a youthful appearance, often engaging in excessive workouts, strict dieting, or cosmetic enhancements. Their behavior may also involve promiscuity and risky sexual practices.
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Somatic narcissists are particularly prone to infidelity as they seek constant attention, admiration, and validation, especially through sexual encounters. Their focus on physical allure enables them to attract and seduce others, often leading to affairs, one-night stands, and casual relationships. They often use sex as a means of manipulation, keeping their partners emotionally tethered.
Section 1.1: The Distorted Self-Image
Somatic narcissists possess a skewed perception of themselves as sexual beings. They feel entitled to pursue sexual pleasure without regard for the emotional fallout on their partners. Their lack of empathy leads them to view their partners merely as objects to fulfill their desires. Consequently, this mindset increases their likelihood of cheating and engaging in risky sexual behaviors, jeopardizing their partners’ emotional and physical well-being.
Subsection 1.1.1: Challenges of Loyalty
While individual experiences may vary, it is crucial to recognize that somatic narcissists generally find it challenging to remain faithful. Their preoccupation with appearance and sexual achievements drives them to seek validation from multiple sources, making loyalty difficult.
Chapter 2: Reasons for Infidelity in Somatic Narcissists
The first video, "Why YOU Stay, Narcissist Cheats, Both Triangulate?", delves into the dynamics of relationships affected by narcissistic behaviors, exploring why partners may tolerate infidelity.
The second video, "Narcissism and Infidelity: Why do narcissists cheat & how do they get away with it?", examines the underlying motivations for cheating among narcissists and the psychological mechanisms that enable their behavior.
1. Insatiable Need for Attention
Somatic narcissists possess an unquenchable desire for admiration, which drives them to seek validation from multiple sexual partners, even if they are committed. This constant craving often compels them to pursue new relationships to feed their ego, sometimes risking their current relationship stability.
2. Lack of Consideration for Others
These individuals often display self-centeredness, prioritizing their own desires over their partner's feelings. They may cheat without contemplating the emotional harm their actions may cause, focusing solely on their own gratification.
3. Viewing Sex as Transactional
Somatic narcissists frequently perceive their relationships as transactional. They may justify their infidelity by believing they deserve special privileges due to their attractiveness. This entitlement is reinforced by the validation they receive from multiple partners, allowing them to rationalize their behavior as acceptable.
4. Desire for Instant Gratification
Impulsivity is a common trait among somatic narcissists, prompting them to act recklessly in pursuit of immediate pleasures. Their inability to consider the consequences can lead to promiscuity, increasing their risk of sexually transmitted infections and emotional fallout.
While it is possible for a somatic narcissist to maintain fidelity, it requires considerable self-awareness, personal growth, and a willingness to engage in therapy. If they acknowledge their behaviors, they might learn to manage their impulses and cultivate deeper emotional connections with their partners. However, this journey can be arduous and demands significant dedication.
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Sherile Turner-Myles, co-author of The Psychologist and Her Narcissists: A Guide to Surviving Toxic Relationships