Section 1.1: Embracing Routine

Initially, I was resistant to establishing a routine, fearing it would exacerbate my depression. I craved spontaneity, luck, and a carefree lifestyle, a phase that was acceptable in my twenties. However, as I matured, I began to realize the necessity of managing responsibilities.

Currently, my life is a tapestry of commitments: graduate school for my MSW, an internship, AmeriCorps volunteering, developing my nonprofit, writing on Medium, and spending time with loved ones. This daunting list is manageable because I’ve structured it into a routine.

The growth of a massive tree in my backyard serves as a metaphor; it didn’t spring up overnight. It grew steadily over years, adhering to a routine of gradual development.

Routine has been instrumental in my progress with the nonprofit. I transitioned from having no website experience to launching a beautiful site. I’ve crafted two different versions of a mental health journal aimed at helping others. My academic performance is excellent, I maintain connections with my family, and I continue to support fellow writers on Medium.

I designate specific times for particular tasks and set aside certain days of the week for commitments. Each day is filled with small actions that contribute to significant achievements. For instance, I reserve Fridays for homework since that’s my only block of time for assignments. Mornings are dedicated to writing when my mind is most at ease.

Navigating what fits into my routine can be challenging, especially when new opportunities arise. However, the ability to assess whether something aligns with my scheduled commitments helps me stay focused on my goals and minimizes distractions.

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Section 1.2: The Dark Side of Routine

While routines can be beneficial, they can also lead us into monotonous habits, generating anxiety around breaking them. Although habits are important, variety is equally essential.

I maintain a bucket list of new experiences to pursue during social outings. This could be as simple as trying a new restaurant or embarking on a day trip to a nearby city to explore.

I might discover a new favorite spot for journaling in nature, or take a different route I pass daily. I might even reach out to an old friend or engage a stranger in conversation.

While the prospect of these new experiences may induce anxiety, they often lead to refreshing outcomes. A simple phone call could reveal that the person on the other end needed that outreach just as much as I did.

Anxiety can escalate the longer we avoid certain activities. For instance, after years without flying, the thought of boarding a plane can provoke intense anxiety. However, regular flying helps me remember my previous successes, making me more prepared for future flights.

If we become trapped in a routine, we risk forgetting how invigorating it can be to break free. Routines can trick us into overcommitting, leading to burnout and distraction from what truly matters.

How Understanding This Can Help

Regularly stepping outside of our comfort zones in small ways can prevent the onset of depression and anxiety, or alleviate existing symptoms. A structured routine can provide a forward-looking perspective that helps prioritize what truly matters and safeguards against overcommitment.

Creating time blocks in our schedules allows us to incorporate essential activities, such as exercise, which benefits both physical and mental health. Maintaining space for new connections and nurturing existing relationships combats feelings of anxiety and depression while enhancing overall life satisfaction.

So, while my routine may not include sipping tea in Tokyo on a random Tuesday morning, I’ve learned that it can help me build a foundation for realizing my dreams. I prefer to cherish my current blessings while planning for my adventures outside the ordinary. Though I may not explore the entire world, I’ll hold on to what truly matters most to me.