# Aromantic Representation in Media: A Long-Awaited Shift
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Aromantic representation in media remains a challenging frontier within the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. Despite the progress made over the past three decades, positive and nuanced portrayals are still scarce. With another Aro Week underway, discussions surrounding the often invalidated experiences of aromantics are more crucial than ever.
As a demi/greyromantic individual who has dedicated a significant part of my career to media creation and analysis, I frequently reflect on the glaring absence of aromanticism in mainstream narratives. While the 2020s have ushered in a wave of diverse representation, it appears aromantic and asexual characters are still largely overlooked by writers, directors, and producers. The widespread misunderstanding of the aromantic spectrum, often dismissed as mere disinterest in relationships, contributes to this lack of representation. Many alloromantic individuals, when aware of the aromantic spectrum, tend to conflate it solely with asexuality, often depicting these characters as fearful or emotionally stunted.
In the realm of media, we're beginning to observe a shift towards more balanced portrayals of singlehood—one that intersects with accurate representations of the aromantic experience. However, the prevailing tendency is to portray aromantic characters as broken alloromantics in need of repair, when they are acknowledged at all.
Before delving into a few noteworthy examples of aromantic representation, I want to highlight The Ace Space and my co-editor Matt Mason, who has been a guiding force in sharing the voices of those on the spectrum. Both of us embarked on our journeys of self-discovery around the same time, challenging societal norms and exploring our identities. I encourage readers to explore stories from The Ace Space for a deeper understanding of the aromantic experience.
Here are the four standout examples of aromantic representation I can identify based on my media consumption as an aromantic elder Millennial.
4. Grandma Jacqueline Bouvier, The Simpsons
In my analysis of The Simpsons, particularly the show’s early seasons, I have noted how it humanizes complex issues, including those faced by women. The character of Grandma Bouvier, despite being minor, offers a glimpse into aromantic representation.
While she lacks romantic storylines, her portrayal reflects societal views on older women. The writers inadvertently shed light on her agency—or lack thereof—by giving her minimal development throughout the series. Her marriage to Marge’s father is depicted almost as an afterthought, raising questions about the true nature of her relationships. Jacqueline Bouvier stands out as an early example of aromantic representation I encountered, as she does not conform to typical expectations of older women regarding love and romance.
3. The Great Gatsby (2013)
Baz Luhrmann's 2013 adaptation of The Great Gatsby offers a fresh perspective on Jay Gatsby's character, suggesting elements of demiromanticism. His extravagant parties serve not merely as social events but as desperate attempts to gain Daisy's attention without direct interaction. This behavior resonates deeply with those on the aromantic spectrum, illustrating a longing for connection without the traditional romantic overtures.
Gatsby's actions reflect a complex understanding of attraction, often misunderstood by alloromantic individuals. The film captures the essence of yearning and the unique grief that accompanies infrequent romantic attraction, making Gatsby an intriguing representation of aromantic traits.
2. Samantha Jones, Sex and the City
Samantha Jones emerges as one of the most prominent aromantic representations on television, intentionally crafted as such. In an era that often shamed women for their sexuality, Samantha's character provided a refreshing departure.
Though she did not explicitly identify as aromantic, her reluctance for traditional romantic commitments and her enjoyment of casual encounters resonate with many who share similar experiences. Her character challenges stereotypes and showcases the complexity of aromantic relationships, proving that one can lead a fulfilling life outside of conventional romantic norms.
1. Louise Belcher, Bob’s Burgers
Louise Belcher from Bob’s Burgers deserves recognition for her evolving character that subtly embraces aromantic traits. Though she is a child, her portrayal is complex, showcasing her as a character who subverts expectations while also hinting at a lack of romantic interest.
Recent episodes affirm her as a queerplatonic partner with Regular Size Rudy, emphasizing that her relationships need not conform to societal norms. This portrayal is significant in children's media, as it illustrates that aromanticism can exist in various forms, promoting acceptance and understanding among young viewers.
In summary, the journey for aromantic representation in media has been long and fraught with challenges. The examples highlighted here illustrate the potential for nuanced portrayals that resonate with audiences, offering a glimpse into the diverse experiences of those on the aromantic spectrum. As we strive for broader representation, it is essential to recognize that aromanticism does not signify a lack of love but rather a different way of experiencing connections with others.