Chapter 1: The Power of Inner Dialogue

One transformative practice can lead you to this shift—if you're willing to step away from conventional norms. Typically, openly conversing with yourself might be viewed as unusual or indicative of distress. However, if you refrain from engaging in meaningful dialogues—both internally and on paper—with your Highest Self, you are missing out on the companionship of your greatest ally.

These imagined conversations, whether spoken or written, have pulled me from the depths of emotional despair time and again. They have brought forth unexpected joy from situations that seemed utterly hopeless.

For instance, 19 months after Michael's passing, I found myself using the TV for the first time during the King's coronation. As I scrolled through channels—something Michael often did—a wave of sadness washed over me. This feeling lingered for days, a stark reminder that I had work to do.

With determination, I reached for my journal and began to focus. I tuned into the gentle coaching of Love, listening to calm, reassuring voices. My imagined guides, whom I lovingly refer to as my Beautifuls, helped me find tranquility. In my mind, I pictured Michael among them, urging me to:

"Pause, Amanda. Take a deep breath."

My thoughts quieted, creating the space necessary for reflection. A dialogue emerged, where the words of my Dream Team came through.

It's alright, Amanda.

But it doesn’t feel okay.

We understand; it’s tough when you’re experiencing pain.

Why must it be so challenging? Couldn’t it be gentler?

Unfortunately, no. You wouldn’t find satisfaction without the lows.

Really? Are you certain? I believe I’d prefer a blissful life without the lows.

You need the contrast to appreciate joy; think of coolness after heat or satisfaction after hunger.

Courage can't exist without fear, and love requires its opposite. Just don't let negative feelings build to overwhelm you. A small wobble can help you appreciate your stability.

How can I manage my feelings? What should I do with my sadness and grief?

Embrace them and allow their guidance. Right now, you’re resisting.

How can I stop resisting?

Make a choice. Choose to embrace your sadness and tears.

I choose love.

Good. There’s relief already, isn’t there?

Yes, it’s surprising, but I do feel lighter.

Keep at it; think of it like cycling uphill before enjoying the downhill. You need to counter the negative momentum first to build something positive.

I choose to love my emotions. They are valid. I’ll return to that infinite perspective. Grief teaches me to appreciate what is. I can choose how I react to triggers; I want them to feel easy and light.

I can do this! I’ve succeeded before.

Exactly! You’ve got this.

Chapter 2: Connecting with Your Inner Being

In the video "How Not To Be Your Own Worst Enemy, Part 1: Pay Attention!" Andy Stanley discusses how to recognize and address self-sabotaging behaviors. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on your inner dialogue and cultivating a relationship with your highest self.

As I pondered my connection with my imagined friends, I began to see their value. I realized that, whether real or not, these inner dialogues brought me immense comfort.

When I reached out to my Beautifuls, I transitioned from feeling isolated to experiencing a profound sense of unity. The tears would dry, and smiles would emerge like sunlight breaking through clouds.

It may seem peculiar to place so much faith in an imaginary support system, but the joy it brings is undeniable.

I spent time by the sea, sipping coffee and enjoying the presence of my invisible companions. Then, a playful cocker-poo pup named Harvey unexpectedly grabbed my snack and ran away!

This whimsical encounter reminded me of the film featuring Jimmy Stewart, about a man and his invisible friend, Harvey, who enriched the lives of those around him.

Research supports the idea of stepping back to gain perspective. The 'Solomon paradox' suggests that we often provide wiser advice to others than we do for ourselves.

Just like Solomon, who offered wisdom to many while struggling in his own life, we need to learn to be our own best friends.

Yes, it’s important to seek counsel from others, but no one can be with you all the time to catch your emotions before they spiral.

Regardless of your beliefs about an inner self or an energy of love, there exists a calm presence within you—the ‘you’ on your best days.

Imagining a conversation with a supportive, loving inner being can be a powerful tool for self-love.

This inner friend is always available, always present, and always guiding you home.

What if you chose to engage with this higher self, treating it as your ultimate ally? Why not try it today?

What do you have to lose—and what might you gain?