Mistake #1: Poor Communication

If you browse job postings, you’ll often see "effective communication skills" listed as a key requirement. While this encompasses tasks like writing emails or memos, communication among colleagues is equally vital.

Back in 2015, I faced challenges in my professional life. I transitioned from being an unpaid intern to a role at a small strategy firm in Arlington, VA, where I was tasked with using social media to connect with individuals in Syria, probing about their experiences during a civil war— in Arabic.

However, after a few months, I was let go as the firm lost its government contract. Financially strained, I accepted a position as an administrative clerk at a law firm in downtown DC, despite a job opening at the think tank where I had previously interned, a role I had genuinely enjoyed.

I was confident about being a strong candidate, but I worried about the lawyer I was to work with, who served on the think tank's advisory board. My lack of understanding about board memberships led to irrational fears that he might jeopardize my chances at the think tank if he learned I was employed elsewhere.

When my former supervisor at the think tank reached out for help on a report, I was hesitant to disclose my new job. I agreed to assist but failed to communicate my availability, leading to frustration and a severed relationship. This resulted in a lost opportunity, as the position I desired ultimately went to a candidate with a Master’s degree.

What I learned from this experience is that effective communication remains a challenge for me. My insecurities and financial concerns clouded my judgment, causing me to forfeit a valuable professional relationship.

The first video discusses essential career lessons that many individuals learn the hard way, emphasizing the importance of communication in the workplace.

Mistake #2: Lack of Follow-Up

Insecurity has often been my companion. Growing up in an environment steeped in shame has shaped my interactions, both personal and professional. Brene Brown describes shame as the painful feeling of being flawed and unworthy of love and belonging. This mindset has influenced my career decisions.

During my college years, I aspired to join the CIA and dedicated myself to achieving that goal. I focused on academic excellence and sought opportunities to enhance my resume. After winning a scholarship to study Arabic in the Middle East, I was well-positioned to apply for the CIA.

A serendipitous connection arose when my childhood friend introduced me to a CIA analyst, who expressed interest in my resume. However, after a few emails, our communication dwindled. My fear of unworthiness prevented me from following up; I took his silence personally rather than considering that he may have simply missed my message.

This regret remains with me, a constant reminder of the importance of proactive communication.

The second video explains why individuals struggle with acceptance in new roles or companies, highlighting the significance of follow-up in professional networking.

Mistake #3: Letting Anger Take Control

Astrology teaches us that our North Node points to our life's purpose, highlighting challenges we need to overcome. As a Capricorn North Node, I struggle with emotions, particularly anger, which can lead to self-destructive behaviors.

In 2016, I joined a prominent defense contractor, managing a counter-nuclear smuggling program. Despite the appealing job title, I soon discovered I was underpaid compared to my colleagues. When I raised this issue, instead of a raise, I was offered a lateral move.

Infuriated, I resigned without securing another position, not realizing that gaps in employment could be detrimental. Although I stand by my decision to advocate for myself, I regret letting anger drive my actions without considering the repercussions.