# Things I No Longer Tolerate for My Happiness: Part 1
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Chapter 1: Setting Boundaries for Happiness
In the pursuit of happiness, I have learned to let go of certain behaviors that were detrimental to my well-being. Reflecting on my experiences, I invite you to consider which habits you might need to release.
Previously, I often put others before myself, sacrificing my own needs. Raised without a clear understanding of personal boundaries, I became a go-to person for all sorts of favors. It wasn't until my thirties that I began to grasp the importance of these boundaries, and I am grateful for that realization.
For instance, when someone would ask, "Would you mind if I say you didn't complete your task so I can skip the party?" I would agree, taking the blame while they maintained their reputation. No longer will I allow this; my needs are just as important. It's selfish for anyone to expect another to consistently take the fall.
Section 1.1: The Impact of Negative News
News consumption used to be a daily habit for me, but I found that many outlets prioritize sensationalism and negativity. They often distort facts or leave out critical information to fit their agenda, which is what frustrated me the most.
I decided to stop my daily news intake, opting instead for a weekly 30-minute catch-up. This change has improved my mental state significantly; I still stay informed without the constant barrage of negativity. Now, I rely more on platforms like Medium and select tech news sources, where opinions are clearly labeled and don’t masquerade as objective reporting.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Shift in Information Sources
Section 1.2: Reevaluating My Role as a Teacher
I have a deep passion for learning, and for a long time, I enjoyed sharing my knowledge with others. Whether it was answering questions about taxes or researching a potential employer, I took pride in being helpful. However, I’ve come to realize that I was seeking validation through these interactions.
I often found myself explaining things to people who were more than capable of figuring them out on their own. This pattern drained my energy and left me feeling depleted. I've learned that when assisting someone, it's essential to manage expectations; many will quickly forget what you taught them.
Remember, we only have about three hours of focused time each day. Use yours wisely.
Chapter 2: Finding Balance in Helping Others
The first video titled "You Get What You Tolerate" emphasizes the importance of self-worth and boundaries. It discusses how our choices shape our lives and encourages viewers to reconsider what they accept in their relationships.
The second video, "Fridays series: Tolerance - the shortcut to Happiness with Craig and Deborah," explores how cultivating tolerance can lead to a more fulfilling life. It provides insights on understanding and navigating personal boundaries to enhance happiness.