Explore the Intriguing Nature of Mendacity in Our Lives
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Chapter 1: Understanding Mendacity
Let's embark on a journey of discovery together, shall we? While preparing to dive into the third installment of Madeleine L’Engle's "A Wrinkle in Time" series, titled "A Swiftly Tilting Planet," I stumbled upon one of those English vocabulary flashcards I previously mentioned. I intentionally left it out earlier because it encapsulated a term that aptly describes numerous individuals from my past, particularly my sister: Mendacious (adj.) — characterized by deceit or falsehood.
Oh, did she embody that!
My sister significantly contributed to my confusion regarding what was true or fabricated about my family and my upbringing. There were countless untruths! It seemed like they were everywhere, about anything and everything, even trivial matters that held no real significance!
As I matured, I realized that my recollections of events she had involved me in were accurate, which led me to understand just how dishonest she was. However, confronting her—or anyone, for that matter—was not an option; the potential backlash was daunting! It simply wasn’t worth the effort. Instead of engaging in endless arguments—something my family seems to thrive on—I opted to minimize my interactions. The anxiety I experienced in the days leading up to family visits, whether for my family or my husband’s, was overwhelming, often resulting in severe panic attacks.
This issue became one of the few sources of tension between my husband and me. He wasn't upset with me; rather, he felt frustration on my behalf. He was much more cognizant of the dysfunction in both our families than I was. I was like an innocent kitten, consistently subjected to harm with little regard.
I don’t intend to portray my family, or his, as monstrous entities. I recognize they each have their own battles and traumas to confront. Nevertheless, the experience of growing up amid these mendacious individuals was undeniably challenging, extending well into adulthood.
Now, back to the word at hand—mendacious. Be cautious of such characters in your life. There’s no need to harbor hatred toward them; they have likely endured enough of that. While we don’t have to love or tolerate them, let’s strive to treat them with kindness when possible. At the same time, we must not allow ourselves to be repeatedly harmed by their actions.
Over the years, I made a concerted effort to mend my relationships with my family. Yet, ultimately, they made the decision for me by persistently using, abusing, blaming, belittling, and disrespecting the boundaries I had just begun to establish before turning 28.
This was not an easy choice, nor has it been an uncomplicated journey since. However, it is a decision I would repeat without hesitation, even if I wish I could assist them in becoming the best versions of themselves for their own sake and for those around them. Isn’t learning a delightful process?
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Section 1.1: The Concept of Mendacity
As we delve deeper into the meaning of "mendacious," it's essential to recognize its relevance in our daily lives.
The first video titled Intrigue - English Vocabulary Lesson - The Word of the Day offers insights into the word and its implications, helping us understand its significance.
Subsection 1.1.1: Personal Reflections on Mendacity
Chapter 2: Embracing Growth and Learning
As we continue this exploration, remember that understanding and confronting these issues is part of personal growth.
The second video titled Word of the Day: INTRIGUING expands on the idea of intrigue, further enriching our vocabulary and comprehension.